At Hawaii Weddings, we know there are some things you simply never say to a bride on her wedding day, regardless of whether you are her best friend or a close family member. If you are attending a wedding, we have a few suggestions on topics you should avoid on the bride’s wedding day, the biggest, most memorable day of her life!

Did someone help you write your vows? I can’t believe you could do it yourself. This is rude, and really no one’s business but the bride and groom. Perhaps the officiant performing the ceremony helped, or she took a quote from a romantic novel – or she may have truly written the vows herself. Don’t ask!

I thought this day would never come. Even if you genuinely thought the couple would NEVER get married, here they are, preparing to say their vows to one another and become one. Maybe you did think the bride would never settle down, or that she wasn’t marriage material. Keep your opinion to yourself, it will only hurt the bride – and it’s a guarantee she will remember what you said.

When do you plan to have children? Will you be buying a house soon? For the moment, the bride wants to focus solely on the most important day of her life – her wedding day. Don’t ask questions about the future, let her enjoy her “in the now” moment. This is a day she wants to stretch out for as long as possible, the happiest day of her life.

Making bets, even jokingly, about whether the marriage will last is a huge no-no. Just don’t go there.

How could you afford an Oahu waterfall wedding? Asking the bride (or groom) who paid for the wedding, whether they paid for it themselves, or who else may have chipped in is simply rude. Instead, compliment them on how beautiful the wedding is, and the great job they did planning all of the details.

These are a few of the areas you should avoid on the bride’s wedding day. Also, try not to complain about the seating or who you’re sitting next to, or talk about what you did at your own wedding. This is HER day, not yours. The attention should be on the bride, so don’t make comments that puts attention somewhere else.

At Hawaii Weddings, we make Oahu waterfall weddings possible for couples who desire a simple, intimate wedding, a lavish wedding with all of the amenities, and everything in between. Keep the tips above in mind, and help the bride enjoy a day filled with friends, family, love, and romance.