There is a lot more to a Hawaii beach wedding than choosing the dress, finding someone to officiate, and hopping on a plane. For instance, who pays the airfare for the bridesmaids, and are you obligated to pay for guests’ hotel rooms? There are many details involved, but you want to make sure you do the right thing and don’t offend any of your friends or family. We have a few etiquette tips we think you’ll find useful.

First of all, who pays for guests’ hotel rooms and airfare when your wedding is at a faraway location? There are no hard and fast rules here. While you can pay for those who can’t afford it if you can afford to, you’re not obligated to do so. Most whose budgets won’t support the costs will simply decline your invitation. However, you can help guests prepare for the costs in advance by sending out save-the-date cards well in advance (about six to eight months beforehand), or check around with airlines to see if some may offer a discount on large groups. You can do the same with hotels, and you’ll have more luck getting group discounts if you book the rooms well in advance when rooms are still available.

If you don’t intend to pay for guests’ hotel rooms, how can you tell them in a polite way? The wording you use can make your point, and help you avoid any misunderstanding or hurt feelings. Include hotel information on your wedding website, save-the-date cards, and with the invitations. You can politely inform guests by including wording such as, “A group of rooms offering various rates is being held under the Baker/King wedding” or similar wording.

Should invitations be sent to those who informed you after receiving a save-the-date card they couldn’t attend? In most cases, yes – especially close family and friends. Sometimes circumstances change between the time you send out save-the-date cards and invitations, and someone who first thought they wouldn’t be able to attend may be able to. However, if casual acquaintances or colleagues decline after receiving the save-the-date card, it really isn’t necessary to send a formal invitation.

You can find lots of information regarding wedding etiquette online so that you feel confident you’re doing the right thing in every aspect of your wedding.

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